Wednesday, January 5, 2011

Saying goodbye is especially hard today.

Today my daughter leaves to go back to college.

You would think after 4 years, I would be used to this and in some ways I am.

However, Alyssa is making possible plans to not come home over spring break.  If that is the case, the next time I will see her she will be graduating from college.

WHAT?!!!!

I started thinking back to how my life changed when I graduated college...

I moved to a new state...not my home state
I got my first "real" job
I lived in my 1st apartment
I only went home at Christmas...if that

.....and that last one has me pretty shaken up.

It is hard enough now to go months without seeing her.  I can not possibly imagine only seeing her once a year.  And as we don't know where she will be attending graduate school yet, I have no idea if she will be close enough to drive to.

It is enough to put a mama into a depression!

Then I remembered I met my husband shortly after that and got married....

waaaaaaaaaaah!

17 comments:

Patrice said...

Oh my! Praying for you! :o)

Mocha with Linda said...

It's definitely more exciting to be the young adult child than the parent! Hugs.

H-Mama said...

I'm not at that season with my girls... yet, but the very thought of it makes me want to curl up in the fetal position or eat a tub of ice cream. (((hugehugs))) to you. Alyssa is turning into a beautiful woman... Just like her Mama. I know you are proud of her.

STILLMAGNOLIA said...

I remember those days and they were hard. I also remember the day my daughter got married...and although we talk on the phone frequently....we don't see each other as much because we live 2 hours away. I am proud of her...and cherish every moment I get. I am praying for you today.

Hillcrest Cottage said...

awwww... it's an interesting time of life, isn't it?

StephieAnne said...

Oh Linda my heart aches for you. As hard as this post-holiday season is for me now, I can only imagine throwing that element into the mix. Praying for you today!

Judy said...

Both of my babies are married (in the last two years). I keep reminding myself this is the way it's supposed to be, and how much I wanted my independence from my parents at the time. It is a challenge to figure out how to relate to those grown-up kids. I feel your pain.

Rach@In His Hands said...

Ohhh, this is hard...and I'm certain many moms feel this way. My mom cries every time we have to say good-bye when I visit her or she visits us...and I've been living away from home for 9 years. Good-byes are so tough. Hugs, friend!!

Toyin O. said...

It must be tough, but the best of life is ahead of her as you put it.

LuAnn said...

Sorry for your hurt friend ! Being a parent is not easy.

I will pray for you - strength.

skoots1mom said...

i've been internalizing a lot of the same emotions...babygirl comes home but goes everywhere to see everyone else...i'm getting to share in her life on a very limited basis and it saddens me greatly. I remember how distant I was for a long time with my family, and I so wish I had NOT been that way to them. Feelin' it with ya, sister.

Mimi said...

Hugs cyber hugs! It sounds like such a hard transition.

Nubbin wiggles,
Oskar

Angie said...

I feel your pain! My daughter is getting married in June and when I went up to her future in-laws in PA last week to work on some wedding plans, I cried myself half the way home. She is a grown woman and forging on with her life. I miss my little girl, but I'm so proud of the woman she has become. It's really the first time I've been able to truly understand how my mom feels when she tells me she's proud of me.

Don't mean to make you more sad. Just life. Thank goodness, we don't walk it alone.

Karin said...

I agree with Linda...it's a lot more exciting to be the young adult than the parent. ha. As a Mama who hasn't seen her son for over 6 months--and probably won't see him for 6 more, I will say this. Skype. It helps.

Michelle said...

I am sharing your pain too! My boys leave in a few days also. One goes back to Camp Lejeune in North Carolina, the other to California where he will complete his pre-deployment training before he ships out to Afghanistan in March. We treasure them while they are home, hurt when they leave and pray ceaselessly while they are gone. My comfort always is the knowledge that for as much as we love our children, God loves them MORE! May he give you strength and peace!

BARBIE said...

I have yet to experience an empty nest. My oldest is 19, still at home, working full time. My youngest is 7. I cannot imagine having to let go. I know it's coming, I am not prepared mentally for it. Praying for you as your daughter returns to school.

Cathy said...

Oh man, is that what I have to look forward two in 4 years? Sometimes I think I'm ready now, but I know I'm really not!

Take care my friend!